{the Facebook debate} in my opinion anyway :::

Those of you who have been reading along for sometime know how I feel about Facebook.
For those of you who haven't, go do some light reading.


My dear friend Jo recently tried again at the social media giant that has an uncanny resemblance to an episode of Days of our Lives or Bold and the Beautiful. 
She blogged about her struggles over here. 
She shared some great points but she made one that sticks with me is, 


                                 "because I don't want my son's remembering
                                             their childhood as having a mother who
                                    was glued to her phone or her computer..."'


Wow. Simple. But some of us just don't realise it. Those who are continually "taking breaks" from these social media giants (again..THIS WAS ME!) may need to stop and realise that they may need to get rid of them for good! It's not a weakness!

Reading a recent article here, the writer summed it up perfectly by saying that "Facebook provides a skewed view of what's really going on." 
Yes I am aware that this article was referring to youth, but in actual fact sometimes us women are even more immature than the immature themselves. Can I get an amen?!

Other mothers 'perfect-while-teething' children playing happily with their siblings whilst mother makes a four course meal. Little did she care to inform you in her Facebook status that Mr 3 bit Mr 6's baby finger til it bled and she burnt two of the four courses because Miss 6mths had been crying hysterically with a fever for over 2 hours.
Meanwhile "real" mothers are sitting in the mess that is their life, wondering why their days aren't as perfect as hers. 
Ring a bell?!


I know it sounds awfully negative over here today, and I do try to provide a happy space over here at Mrs.Clark, but sometimes things need to be said.

Apart from the obvious link Facebook and other social media may have to depression, something else I just cannot get my head around is how on earth so many mothers find the time to spend on Facebook, Tweeting, Instagraming, Googleplus-ing, blogging etc.
I'm all for socialising, trust me! And I really do enjoy the ease of social networking but its those who are on every single one of them that really get me!  
The truth of the matter is that they actually don't have the time. 
I know. I used to be one of them.


I haven't been on Facebook for 8 months now. 
And apart from the odd few opinions of some narcissists in my world, most people are surprised and somewhat respectful of the fact that I've separated myself from one of the very causes of the painful journey I've walked in the last 2 years. 


I can't help but wonder what happened. 
When did it all go so wrong?

When did pointless status updates and poking around peoples pages take priority over actually living life?

When did sharing every mundane part of our day become so important?
When did bagging out people and sharing our opinion about every. single. thing. become so "cool"?


I'll leave you with this passage from a book I'm reading entitled "She's Not Your Competition" written by two amazing women Kelley Chisholm and Penny Webb from my church. 


"A further concern is the rise of social media in it's application as an immediate forum to compete with and intimidate others. Though most often associated with young women, it is showing up in all demographics - and has the potential to destroy relationships and peoples self-esteem but at an arms length and even anonymously."


Ain't that the truth!


I'm open to opinions so please share! 
Ugly, unnecessary & nasty comments will be deleted. 

xoxo